You and I both know you didn't need that penny to say those things.
SPN10 Countdown Challenge | day 18
[6/23] Spells, Curses & Ganking - 8x06 Southern Comfort
Just let it go. Come on Dean.
Toss up a coin, follow its path until it hits the ground and watch as it spins. It could fall either way. Heads or tails. Win or lose. The problem with the coin in Southern Comfort is that no matter which way it falls the person who picks it up to look at it, is going to be cursed. It’s the object itself that determines who wins or loses, not the two faces of it.
When Dean and Sam were reunited in We Need to Talk about Kevin it became clear that Sam did not look for Dean after he vanished. Whether he was right to or not, whether Dean is right to be angry about it or not, all of that is rather like the two faces of the cursed penny, It actually doesn’t matter. It is holding on to the issue that destructive, on which side of the discussion you fall is irrelevant.
Over the course of season 8 neither Winchester lets go. It drives Sam to share in the final trial that he thought his greatest sin was letting Dean down. It made Dean allow an angel to possess his brother without his consent.
Remarkably, it is Garth who properly introduces Carver’s triology-spanning arc of Holding On & Letting Go here. Long before Charlie and her mother, long before demon!Dean writes a note to tell his little brother to let him go, it is Garth who articulates what is considered the healthiest route. Dean asks him why the penny/specter that relishes on anger and unsolved issues didn’t affect him. His reply:
I let all that stuff go with the help of my yogi, my Sega Genesis. And you should, too. You can’t change the past, amigo.
It is particularly the word amigo that strikes me as significant here, as it is reminiscent of
always the adios
which was very successfully introduced in season 9 as short-hand for Dean’s fear of abandonment, of being let go of.
As long as Sam and Dean aren’t able to let go, as long as they allow the pain and guilt of the past to dictate their actions in the present, the anger and unsolved issues will never be resolved. As long as they don’t voluntarily let go of their version of the penny, it doesn’t matter on which side it falls; they are both going to be cursed.
Just let it go. Come on, Dean.